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From: "Anderson"
Date: Sun,
14 Mar 2004 01:07:08 +0000
Divorce as
personal disorganization and a disaster for children of divorce.
Divorce becomes
personal disorganization in many ways. First, a divorcee must
undergo a certain "personal renaissance", to rediscover their identity
and re-evaluate their job, friends, home and issues such as therapy and
dating. Secondly, a certain amount of financial disorganization
to do with child support, costs of new living arrangements, financial stability,
and the issue of ownership of good cuase a certain amount of stress on
a divorcee. Finally, the interaction, with a family, peer gourps,
step-families and others are severly impacted after divorce, which is devastating
for children especially. Divorce can really put somone into an unfamiliar
place which may take a while to muddle through.
From: "Morgan
B"
Subject:
Group 3
Date: Sat,
13 Mar 2004 13:38:48 -0700
Dr.Phil,
Here's our
discussion for the blog from the Panda's
Many people
think of divorce as a chaotic process which still holds a stigma for both
the married couple as well as for the children but it is not so. Divorce
can be looked at as a solution to problematic marriages which result in
creativity and the feeling of liberty.
1. Instead
of staying in an unhealthy situation the couple in the marriage can get
out of it creating a better environment for themselves and the children,
reorganizing the family structure by creating lone-parent or blended-families.
2. Divorces
can help develop creative ways for dealing with relationships, for both
the children and adults, after the relationship has dissolved because of
the new reorganization of the family structure.
3. Divorce
can be a solution for women, allowing them more liberation and creativity
when not having to follow the expected role of being a wife and mother.
If we can
see divorce as a solution to unhappy o! r unhealthy marriages it would
help dissolve the stigma surrounding divorce. Policies and laws would be
allowed to catch to the new values around divorce to help deal with the
reorganization of families, especially when dealing with the concerns about
children living under the poverty line.
From: "Cori
J"
Subject:
Cori J question and comment on class
Date: Sat,
13 Mar 2004 12:24:58 -0600
Hi Doctor
Phil
I 'am speaking
on behalf of the totem Beavers:
Our question
Divorce as a social disorganization can be presented in many areas but
I found 3 general areas that are most affected:
1.
Hard on the children - lack of parenting , motivation can be lowered
, the feeling of being unwanted, run away, or worser senario's
2.
Family Economics - all mutual shared material items must be divided example:
house, vehicle, cabin's, pets, friends,
3.
Feminization of Poverty- single mother's or father's are usual on the poverty
line or slightly above it. Less paying jobs and usual part time work
to do both shift work and family supporter.
I would also
like to add to the discussion in class on Friday about divorce. I
believe that every situation is different. In the past centuries
and in current century children are given to the mother's. But more
and more Father's are given the chance to prove they too are fit parents.
It's a really tough topic to when it comes down to mom or dad and who will
be the better provider for that child. All people are different
so I think divorce would be different for every individual going through
it.
From: "Andrew
S"
Subject:
Soci 160 - Divorce groupwork
Date: Fri,
12 Mar 2004 20:56:18 +0000
4.
Divorce as a personal and economic problem for women more so than men and
as the major contributor to the feminization of poverty (the 1980's to
the early 2000's).
We are the
ladybugs and we feel that the reason that divorce is a major contributor
to the feminization of poverty because:
- Women
have really only been accepted within the workplace for the last 40 years.
When a husband and wife divorce the women, who may have been a stay at
home mom, now has to go out into the workforce and find a job. This
can prove to be an extremely difficult task because many of these women
who have never worked before will lack the necessary skills to succeed
in the workforce.
- After
a divorce, the now ex-husband will tend to not lose any money. After
a short period of time, males will have more money than when they were
married because they are no longer supporting their entire families and
therefore his expenses will decrease. Women however, especially the
stay at home mothers , have increased expenses and along with the loss
of money there is also a loss of time to spend with the children.
87% of Children end up living with their mothers after a divorce even though
the fathers living standards have become better while the mothers will
often become much worse. On average, women experience a decrease
in living standard by 73%. Men on the other hand have an increase
of 42% in their living standards.
- There
is a general neutrality with laws, however when it comes down to it, males
are often favored in the respect to job positions and pay-roll. When
a divorce happens, assets are divided equally. But truthfully, the
male is making much more money than his female counterpart, so when the
everything is divided between the two, the ruling is unjust because the
males are walking away with more money per year.
We found
a quote in the Families text book that we feel adds to our claims: "Women
are doubley damned. If they stay home to look after the childrenm
they are seen as unable to provide as secure financial environment that
could be provided by their father" (Baker, 224). "When women do work
outside the home, they are seen as part-time mothers and less commited
to their children" (Baker, 224).
Andrew, Angela,
Bevan and Bhusheun
Date: Thu,
11 Mar 2004 23:30:20 -0800 (PST)
From:
"Colleen T"
Hi Dr. Phil,
Attached
is the divorce discussion question response from the "Wolves."
Colleen
Divorce is
a major problem for children; they will experience a decreased socio-economic
status, a lack of dual-parent socialization, and unstable family dynamics.
With a decreased socio-economic status, children may miss opportunities
that were formally attainable. Also, when lacking dual-parent socialization,
they are primarily socialized by one gender instead of both. Lastly, divorce
presents unstable family dynamics: children have two homes, two sets of
friends, and essentially two separate lives. Divorce upsets childrens’
lives in these, and many other, problematic ways.
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